Confession #8 – My 15 Year Old Niece is Pregnant for the Second Time. Part 2
Hi confessors, I hope you’re all suitably recovered from
yesterday’s confession. If for some BIZARRE reason you have not read it yet
“CLICK HERE” to get up to speed. We heard a heart wrenching story from an
‘Appalled Aunt’ and due to the length and nature of the story I decided to
leave it let it sink in for a few days before I add my two cents worth. So here
I have to say I am APPALLED also! And not at the lady that
wrote the letter, I am appalled that in this day and age BLACK WOMEN are STILL
putting “their men” before their children. I have to say I wanted to put my
foot through my own computer when I read this story I was so angry. I wonder
what drives a woman to believe that her man’s happiness and well-being is more
important than that of her child’s.
Is it low self-esteem?
Do these women think
so little of themselves that they do not believe they can manage alone?
Could it be a need to be seen with a man?
Or do they put themselves in such a position
that the man is the sole provider and they literally cannot survive without
I honestly would like to know because unfortunately this is not a rare
problem. It is an increasingly common one and I for one would like to
understand what the root cause is.
It is of no use to sit down pointing fingers at these women
whilst condemning their behavior towards their girl children. Blaming changes
nothing! Only when we understand the cause can we begin to affect some change. Don’t
get me wrong I am not setting myself up as some sort of saint. Part of me wants
to beat this woman soooo bad. But I have been alive long enough to know that
cussing and fighting solves nothing. (Although it does feel good for a time)
That said I would like to encourage the lady that wrote this
confession to continue to try to get through to Angela. She is still so young;
I cannot believe that all is lost for her. Yes she has four children that need
to be taken care of, but none of this is Angela’s fault, she is a product of
her environment. Her mother failed her, her mother’s boyfriend ‘allegedly’
abused her, and she had no one to protect her. All of the adults around her
But I do not believe it is too late. I feel that something
can be done to make sure that Angela’s entire life is not wasted. She has lost
her youth in the foulest way, but she does not have to lose her future. And I pray
that YOU “Appalled Aunt” find the strength to continue to fight for your niece.
I know it will be extremely hard, harder than anyone can imagine but I beg you
to not forsake her, as I fear YOU are her only hope.