confessors, I love it when I get a confession that makes me laugh out loud. But
please forgive me I know it is a serious matter but I could not help laughing.
Today’s story comes to us from my favorite place in the whole wide
world…lovely lovely Barbados. A lady calling herself Mz Diva wrote in and said
I don’t know
what to do. I hope you can give me some advice. No matter what I do I cannot
get rid of my ex-boyfriend. We had been together for 5 years but to be honest I
had not been happy for about 2 years. I told my boyfriend that it was over
between us about eight months ago. But since then I have not been able to get
him to understand that we are done and he is now my ex.
He comes to
my house, he comes to my workplace, and he follows me when I go out with
friends. One night a guy was chatting to me while at a bar and when I went to
the bathroom my ex turned up and told the guy that he was my man. Because he is
very tall and muscular the guy backed off and did not speak to me again for the
rest of the night.
You may not
think that is bad Carol but it’s getting worse. A couple of weeks ago a friend
of mine spent the night at my house. I got up during the night to get a glass
of water, when I went back to my bedroom a man was trying to climb in through
my bedroom window, I screamed because I thought it was a burglar. My friend
jumped up and hit the man with a chair, and he fell back outside. We ran
outside to see what had happened and to my disgust I realized it was my ex.
I managed to
stop my friend from fighting with him and we went to the police. But was only appalled
to have a police woman look at me and tell me that he hasn't physically damaged
me so they cannot do anything. I told her I caught him breaking into my home
and she just shrugged and said it would be my word against his.
I am so very
angry. What is this country coming to if it is OK for a man to break into a
woman’s house because he was once in a relationship with her? So I have to wait
until he tries to kill me before any charges can be brought against him? This
is ridiculous, everywhere I turn I see the man ducking behind cars and hiding
in bushes. It seems he does not work or eat or sleep because everywhere I go I
see him. This is really stressing me out
and I feel I may take matters into my own hands soon if the police will not
If you have
any suggestions I would be glad to hear them. Thanks.
in advance for what I’m about to do…..Bhahhahahahahahahahahahahahaaaaaa!!!
OK now that I
have that out of my system let’s be serious. I don’t like this nonsense at all.
I am concerned that as this man becomes more and more obsessed with you he may
decide to step up his antics and do something more drastic. I would suggest you
go and see a lawyer to find out if you can have an injunction taken out against
him. This man needs help and left unchecked he could literally become a menace
to all women.
imagine that having someone following you around 24/7 would be very stressful
indeed and I would hate to see you become sick because of this man’s crazy
obsession with you. I have to say I am very surprised at the police. Since when
is it not an offence to attempt to break into someone’s home? Since when is it
your word against his when you caught the man red handed and your friend was
witness to this?
I think you
should go to another police station and explain yourself again. But I do think
getting some advice from a lawyer first would be a wise move.
I hope you
get this situation resolved because I do not want to read about you in the
newspaper. Please do not take matters into your own hands; do you really want
to wind up in Dodd’s for this crazy man? If you harm him, you would be wrong in
the eyes of the law so please do your best to find a legal way of dealing with
this man. Please let me know how things turn out for you.
over to your FOLKS…What Advice do YOU Have For Mz DIVA??
Take her ex
back and save all the hassle?
to bump him off and dump his body in a unused well?
OR Take the
high road and deal with him within the constraints of the law?